The past year has been a big one for milestones around these parts: my company turned 5, DH and I celebrated 15 years together, I
turned 40, my kids reached milestone birthdays of their own, Medium Fry
started university, and as if to tie a bow on the already bumper year,
this week marks Frecklicious' 10th anniversary - and this, my 300th
post. 300! Who knew I had so much to say? (Yes, that was a joke - we all know I can't stop talking.)
Talking about talking... you know what it's like when someone is planning a wedding and every conversation you have with them for like the entire year leading up to it has to revolve around seating arrangements, floral arrangements, "colours" and so on? (Heaven forbid they're doing an extended engagement 'cause then you have to hear about it for two years!) Well, I am currently planning a seven-month tour of Europe and although I'm really, really trying not to be all wedding-y about it, it is just so dang exciting (to me) that details of the trip keep bursting out of my mouth (to you) despite my best intentions. The worst part is that I've been planning it for four years so it's been like the extendedest engagement ever - ick!
So, yeah, couple of housekeeping items to address here: One, my sincere apologies to anyone whose wedding rambles I've ever rolled my eyes at. I get it now. (Sortof.) And two, more apologies to everyone who has had to listen to me vacation ramble for the past four years.
Actually, while we're here I might as well throw in a preemptive apology for the next few months before we fly away 'cause I'm prolly not going to magically become able to contain myself at this point.
What I can promise you, though, is that this will not suddenly become a "travel blog" and I very solemnly swear to never cause you to retch up your lunch by referring to myself as a "travel writer." I think there's no way to avoid acknowledging the context of traveling
when I'm telling my little stories here, but I'm envisioning it being more
about the monkeys than the circus, if you know what I mean. Previous experience suggests that no matter where we are I will find ways to embarrass myself, DH will find ways for me to (lovingly!) make fun of him, and Small Fry will continue to be a source of comedic relief and consternation, all of which I consider fair game for Frecklicious. (Medium Fry will be staying home to attend school while the rest of us travel, but who knows - she may guest star on occasion.)
I suspect an extended family trip will unlock parts of our personalities that we don't even know exist - like how DH used to believe he was laid-back before he had children. I'm excited and, honestly, not a small amount of nervous about the things we will learn about ourselves and each other, but I'm confident it will make for some ridiculous stories. Thank you for stopping by these past 10 years, and stay tuned for the next ones!
Monday, January 28, 2019
Monday, December 31, 2018
Dietary Delight
'Tis the season for Resolutions! You surely all know by now that I love Resolutions, and I'm pleased to say that I went through my 2018 Resolutions today and found that I achieved (or at least made good progress toward) most of the goals I set for the year. I'm also a big fan of lists, and since one of my best motivational tricks is to put something I've already completed on my lists so I have something to check off straight away, I also achieved several retroactive Resolutions that I didn't even know about until now. I am winning so hard this year!
Know what I didn't do? Again? Lose a shit-ton of excess weight. It's almost a recurring joke that I put it on the list each year, and it really is a recurring joke the mental efforts I take to avoid the actual efforts involved in attaining this particular Resolution. I've noticed a few fallacies I'm particularly prone to, and from that compiled the following fun list of diet personalities. (And by "fun" I mean uncomfortably close to home and possibly offensive. Per usual.)
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The Last Supper: "Might as well enjoy food while I still can." And by this you mean all the food, as if you are stockpiling calories for the end of days. Oh wait - due to a neat trick of biology, you can stockpile calories! Expect to gain 10lbs before you even get started on your diet.
The Spring Cleaner: "Get this shit out of here!" If it's not in the house you can't eat it, right? Ahh, now your cupboards look like the rejects aisle at the food bank - nice! Not necessarily a bad approach, unless of course you live with other people who are not on your diet. And who emphatically do not want tinned lentils for an afternoon snack. Expect to lose 2lbs off your rolls and 20 points in the polls.
The Conscientious Objector: "I can't let all this perfectly good food go to waste..." Of course you can't! Much better it goes to waist instead. Expect to gain 5lbs, and probably be on Hoarders one day.
The False Starter: "Okay, for really real this time!" Except you can't start on a Sunday - that's family dinner night! But Monday was just so hard this week, and what kind of monster starts things on a Tuesday? By Wednesday the whole week is basically a write-off... you'd better just start fresh next week. Expect to gain a rather perplexing* 5lbs** this month.
* I mean, all you ever think about is dieting, how can you be gaining weight?!
** If combined with a tendency to Last Supper-ing, gain 10lbs.
The Eclectic: "This one will work for sure!" You've been simply passionate about every fad diet and food trend that has ever existed. Like, ever. You own a bewildering number of oddly specific small appliances - juicers, blenders, fat-free fryers, grillers, shakers, makers, bakers, takers, and partitioned toddler plates for adults (?) - your pantry rivals Bulk Barn in its selection of obscure ingredients, and you could open a Museum of Modern Health Trends with the 30-year retrospective of home gym equipment languishing in your basement. Expect to lose 5lbs now, gain it back in a month when you lose interest, and have no friends because your constant proselytizing is freaking exhausting.
The Intellectual: "Ugh, paleolithic peoples would totally have eaten bananas if they were available!" You have acquiesced to the fact that you need - well, not 'help', exactly, more like 'inspiration' - to kick-start your diet, but you can't help but dwell upon the fallacies and flaws of each plan you look into. It's just that you're so much smarter than diets! Expect to lose the same 20lbs over and over until you either die of a heart attack or gain some humility, whichever comes first.
The Old Timer: "I'll just keep doing what works for me!" Would we be having this conversation if it were truly working? And are those ankle weights? Expect to lose 5lbs, but at the steep personal cost of consuming a lot of cottage cheese and Diet Coke.
The Perfectionist: "As soon as I'm not so stressed out..." Or maybe when the kids are all in school, or when your back doesn't hurt so much, or when Jupiter aligns with Mars. Whatever it is, it is clear that conditions must be absolutely perfect in order for you to ingest more fibre. Congratulations, here's your 5lbs.
The Princess and the Pea: "It's just so hard because of my [insert multiple conflicting conditions of varying credibility here]." Hey, have you ever heard of the Paralympics? Actually, y'know what, never mind. Just take your 5lbs and go.
The Theist: "Please, baby Jeebus!" Remember kids, the Lord helps those who help themselves, and He did not mean to seconds. 5lbs, honey. Next!
The Optimist: "Welp, New Year and Orthodox New Year were busts. Good thing for Lunar New Year!" Expect to lose 2lbs, gain 5lbs back celebrating the latest flip of the calendar page, and start again - all with a smile, somehow.
The Pessimist: "Honestly, why even bother?" With that attitude, you're exactly right. Expect to gain 5lbs. Of course.
The Realist: "Honestly, why even bother?" OMG, so true! Here's your 5lbs.
The Sailor: "Fuck it." Is this also Pessimistic, or perhaps Realistic? Either way, I totally agree. 5lbs.
The Polycephalist: Any or all of the above, in whatever combination suits your needs at the moment. Personally, I tend to run about 25% each Last Supper, Spring Cleaner and Old Timer (CICO my dudes!) with varying degrees of most of the others, depending on my mood. Let's not talk about the weight gain one might expect when employing this particular combination, k?
Finally, we have...
The Metabolism: "I guess I'm just naturally thin!" Listen, this entire post was designed to be so profoundly unrelatable to you that you could not possibly read this far, so it is not my fault if you are offended by my saying what the other struggling 99% of humanity is thinking when you say shit like that in January: please fuck off.
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Happy New Year to all my dear readers, and may all your Resolutions become realities this year.
Know what I didn't do? Again? Lose a shit-ton of excess weight. It's almost a recurring joke that I put it on the list each year, and it really is a recurring joke the mental efforts I take to avoid the actual efforts involved in attaining this particular Resolution. I've noticed a few fallacies I'm particularly prone to, and from that compiled the following fun list of diet personalities. (And by "fun" I mean uncomfortably close to home and possibly offensive. Per usual.)
* * *
The Last Supper: "Might as well enjoy food while I still can." And by this you mean all the food, as if you are stockpiling calories for the end of days. Oh wait - due to a neat trick of biology, you can stockpile calories! Expect to gain 10lbs before you even get started on your diet.
The Spring Cleaner: "Get this shit out of here!" If it's not in the house you can't eat it, right? Ahh, now your cupboards look like the rejects aisle at the food bank - nice! Not necessarily a bad approach, unless of course you live with other people who are not on your diet. And who emphatically do not want tinned lentils for an afternoon snack. Expect to lose 2lbs off your rolls and 20 points in the polls.
The Conscientious Objector: "I can't let all this perfectly good food go to waste..." Of course you can't! Much better it goes to waist instead. Expect to gain 5lbs, and probably be on Hoarders one day.
The False Starter: "Okay, for really real this time!" Except you can't start on a Sunday - that's family dinner night! But Monday was just so hard this week, and what kind of monster starts things on a Tuesday? By Wednesday the whole week is basically a write-off... you'd better just start fresh next week. Expect to gain a rather perplexing* 5lbs** this month.
* I mean, all you ever think about is dieting, how can you be gaining weight?!
** If combined with a tendency to Last Supper-ing, gain 10lbs.
The Eclectic: "This one will work for sure!" You've been simply passionate about every fad diet and food trend that has ever existed. Like, ever. You own a bewildering number of oddly specific small appliances - juicers, blenders, fat-free fryers, grillers, shakers, makers, bakers, takers, and partitioned toddler plates for adults (?) - your pantry rivals Bulk Barn in its selection of obscure ingredients, and you could open a Museum of Modern Health Trends with the 30-year retrospective of home gym equipment languishing in your basement. Expect to lose 5lbs now, gain it back in a month when you lose interest, and have no friends because your constant proselytizing is freaking exhausting.
The Intellectual: "Ugh, paleolithic peoples would totally have eaten bananas if they were available!" You have acquiesced to the fact that you need - well, not 'help', exactly, more like 'inspiration' - to kick-start your diet, but you can't help but dwell upon the fallacies and flaws of each plan you look into. It's just that you're so much smarter than diets! Expect to lose the same 20lbs over and over until you either die of a heart attack or gain some humility, whichever comes first.
The Old Timer: "I'll just keep doing what works for me!" Would we be having this conversation if it were truly working? And are those ankle weights? Expect to lose 5lbs, but at the steep personal cost of consuming a lot of cottage cheese and Diet Coke.
The Perfectionist: "As soon as I'm not so stressed out..." Or maybe when the kids are all in school, or when your back doesn't hurt so much, or when Jupiter aligns with Mars. Whatever it is, it is clear that conditions must be absolutely perfect in order for you to ingest more fibre. Congratulations, here's your 5lbs.
The Princess and the Pea: "It's just so hard because of my [insert multiple conflicting conditions of varying credibility here]." Hey, have you ever heard of the Paralympics? Actually, y'know what, never mind. Just take your 5lbs and go.
The Theist: "Please, baby Jeebus!" Remember kids, the Lord helps those who help themselves, and He did not mean to seconds. 5lbs, honey. Next!
The Optimist: "Welp, New Year and Orthodox New Year were busts. Good thing for Lunar New Year!" Expect to lose 2lbs, gain 5lbs back celebrating the latest flip of the calendar page, and start again - all with a smile, somehow.
The Pessimist: "Honestly, why even bother?" With that attitude, you're exactly right. Expect to gain 5lbs. Of course.
The Realist: "Honestly, why even bother?" OMG, so true! Here's your 5lbs.
The Sailor: "Fuck it." Is this also Pessimistic, or perhaps Realistic? Either way, I totally agree. 5lbs.
The Polycephalist: Any or all of the above, in whatever combination suits your needs at the moment. Personally, I tend to run about 25% each Last Supper, Spring Cleaner and Old Timer (CICO my dudes!) with varying degrees of most of the others, depending on my mood. Let's not talk about the weight gain one might expect when employing this particular combination, k?
Finally, we have...
The Metabolism: "I guess I'm just naturally thin!" Listen, this entire post was designed to be so profoundly unrelatable to you that you could not possibly read this far, so it is not my fault if you are offended by my saying what the other struggling 99% of humanity is thinking when you say shit like that in January: please fuck off.
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Happy New Year to all my dear readers, and may all your Resolutions become realities this year.
Wednesday, November 28, 2018
Sunny Side Up
I have a friend who traveled extensively for sports in his youth and, later, for work, and he told me once that he regretted not getting out and enjoying the places he visited when he had the chance - as he told it, his experiences in all these far-flung places were largely limited to hotel rooms and event centres. This story really struck a nerve with me and I have since made a concerted effort to enjoy the hell out of every place I travel.
Of course, it's easy to enjoy places you travel to when you're on vacation, because you're on vacation - how bad could it even be? Given my job, however, I mostly travel to small towns in rural western Canada, and mostly during the hectic field season - basically the very antithesis of a state of vacation, in places that are on precisely no-one's bucket list.
But you know what? I mostly do enjoy these places, or at least aspects of these places. There's nearly always a positive nugget in there somewhere. Worst case scenario, I come away with a ridiculous field story, which is in itself a positive thing in my books. As they say, Wherever you go, there you are, and I do believe the ability to find the sunny side in your travels has a lot to do with the attitude you're packing along. I always aspire to pack my very best attitude; failing that, I also pack an assortment of colourful field gotch to choose from when I need a mood boost in the morning. As they don't ever say, but maybe should, With colourful underpants and enough coffee, anything is possible.
(Honestly, that should be my company slogan, although I might have to classy it up a bit before I put it on letterhead - any of you folks know Latin?)
He probably doesn't even remember the conversation, but I've had so many delightful experiences in so many little podunk places since embarking on my Positive Travel Attitude phase that my friend deserves a thank-you for the inspiration. Thanks, buddy! (He doesn't read this, but don't worry - I'll buy him a beer sometime and tell him in person.)
I was considering making an adventure map to share here, with a little pin at each oddball place and a cutesy little happy story to accompany each pin, but on consideration it just seemed too - how to put it delicately? - Instagrammy-bullshit for me to follow through with. It felt like I was sullying those magical moments, like staging a yoga pose in front of a beautiful mountain view and posting it for fake internet points. Gross.
Instead, I will stay firmly on-brand and tell you about a time when I embarrassed myself in the field. (I'd just like to point out that another friend of mine once suggested I rarely "put myself out there" - I contend that oversharing is indeed a form of putting oneself out there, and if anything I do it too much. But I digress. Also too much.)
Picture it: Chain hotel in a small town, the kind with the free popcorn in the lobby. I check in and have a nice chat with the young-ish, not-unattractive fellow at the front desk. He showed me something funny going down on one of the hallway security cameras and we had a laugh. I headed to my room, hopped in the shower, and realized two things: one, I forgot to give the guy my rewards card, and two, I forgot to get popcorn. I threw on some comfy clothes and a pair of Bama socks (too lazy to put on real shoes at this point in the day) and headed down to the lobby.
"Hi again," said front desk guy.
"Hey," I said, through a mouthful of popcorn, "I forgot to give you this when I checked in." And handed over my rewards card.
Except I didn't hand over my rewards card. I handed him my room key.
In my defense, they both have a little picture of a bag of popcorn on them - they honestly look very similar - and it had been a long day.
Front desk guy just stared at the card, with his jaw *literally* hanging open. We stood there like this for an uncomfortably long time - in retrospect, sortof an insultingly long time - me staring at him wondering why he wasn't giving me my reward points, and him staring at the room key this popcorn-munching old coug had just handed him.
I eventually realized I'd given him the wrong card and switched them out. He gave me my points; I shuffled off to my room. It wasn't until then that I realized the implication of what I'd done (seriously, it was a long day), and then the implication of him not taking the damn room card. I mean, did he really need to be quite so aghast about it? Was it really that hard a decision? Jeebus.
So yeah, I do put myself out there - way out there, apparently, and not necessarily intentionally, but still. It was a bit of a worst case scenario, but by employing my Positive Travel Attitude I was able to glean not only a ridiculous field story, but also an incredibly ballsy pickup technique to share with you. Feel free to give it a try the next time your self esteem needs to be taken down several notches.
Of course, it's easy to enjoy places you travel to when you're on vacation, because you're on vacation - how bad could it even be? Given my job, however, I mostly travel to small towns in rural western Canada, and mostly during the hectic field season - basically the very antithesis of a state of vacation, in places that are on precisely no-one's bucket list.
But you know what? I mostly do enjoy these places, or at least aspects of these places. There's nearly always a positive nugget in there somewhere. Worst case scenario, I come away with a ridiculous field story, which is in itself a positive thing in my books. As they say, Wherever you go, there you are, and I do believe the ability to find the sunny side in your travels has a lot to do with the attitude you're packing along. I always aspire to pack my very best attitude; failing that, I also pack an assortment of colourful field gotch to choose from when I need a mood boost in the morning. As they don't ever say, but maybe should, With colourful underpants and enough coffee, anything is possible.
(Honestly, that should be my company slogan, although I might have to classy it up a bit before I put it on letterhead - any of you folks know Latin?)
He probably doesn't even remember the conversation, but I've had so many delightful experiences in so many little podunk places since embarking on my Positive Travel Attitude phase that my friend deserves a thank-you for the inspiration. Thanks, buddy! (He doesn't read this, but don't worry - I'll buy him a beer sometime and tell him in person.)
I was considering making an adventure map to share here, with a little pin at each oddball place and a cutesy little happy story to accompany each pin, but on consideration it just seemed too - how to put it delicately? - Instagrammy-bullshit for me to follow through with. It felt like I was sullying those magical moments, like staging a yoga pose in front of a beautiful mountain view and posting it for fake internet points. Gross.
Instead, I will stay firmly on-brand and tell you about a time when I embarrassed myself in the field. (I'd just like to point out that another friend of mine once suggested I rarely "put myself out there" - I contend that oversharing is indeed a form of putting oneself out there, and if anything I do it too much. But I digress. Also too much.)
Picture it: Chain hotel in a small town, the kind with the free popcorn in the lobby. I check in and have a nice chat with the young-ish, not-unattractive fellow at the front desk. He showed me something funny going down on one of the hallway security cameras and we had a laugh. I headed to my room, hopped in the shower, and realized two things: one, I forgot to give the guy my rewards card, and two, I forgot to get popcorn. I threw on some comfy clothes and a pair of Bama socks (too lazy to put on real shoes at this point in the day) and headed down to the lobby.
"Hi again," said front desk guy.
"Hey," I said, through a mouthful of popcorn, "I forgot to give you this when I checked in." And handed over my rewards card.
Except I didn't hand over my rewards card. I handed him my room key.
In my defense, they both have a little picture of a bag of popcorn on them - they honestly look very similar - and it had been a long day.
Front desk guy just stared at the card, with his jaw *literally* hanging open. We stood there like this for an uncomfortably long time - in retrospect, sortof an insultingly long time - me staring at him wondering why he wasn't giving me my reward points, and him staring at the room key this popcorn-munching old coug had just handed him.
I eventually realized I'd given him the wrong card and switched them out. He gave me my points; I shuffled off to my room. It wasn't until then that I realized the implication of what I'd done (seriously, it was a long day), and then the implication of him not taking the damn room card. I mean, did he really need to be quite so aghast about it? Was it really that hard a decision? Jeebus.
So yeah, I do put myself out there - way out there, apparently, and not necessarily intentionally, but still. It was a bit of a worst case scenario, but by employing my Positive Travel Attitude I was able to glean not only a ridiculous field story, but also an incredibly ballsy pickup technique to share with you. Feel free to give it a try the next time your self esteem needs to be taken down several notches.
Tuesday, November 27, 2018
Niche Market
Hello, my name is Frecklepelt. I'm here today because I'm forty years old and I still haven't figured out what to do with my hair.
(This is a support group, right? You guys are supporting me in my lack of hair awareness? Cool, thx.)
I feel about my hair like old people feel about technology: it's mysterious and confusing, and although I am somewhat envious of others' abilities to wrangle the technology, frankly I'm not terribly inclined to learn how to use it myself. I'm all like, Why isn't it working today? It worked yesterday and I didn't change a thing! Why does it hate me?! Screw it, I'm going to deal with this the old-fashioned way that I understand (i.e., ponytail).
This is not to say that I haven't gotten some solid mileage out of my hair over the years - there's always been a certain market for the red hair/green eyes thing. Often of the basement-dwelling variety (thanks, perhaps, to the fantasy genre?), but y'know, in a pinch, I figure I can always catch some D&D D. I'd also like to thank kids' shows for deeply ingraining in people that the redhead with glasses is the smart one - I got glasses at the ripe old age of 6 so I feel I've benefitted from that unconscious bias for most of my life.
So I don't hate my hair, it's just that our relationship is somewhat... adversarial. I wake up every day knowing there's going to be some kind of battle with it, and I approach the mirror with the same look of grim determination on my face that my Grandma Mabel got every time she had to use her cell phone. I can remember her mashing the absolute hell out of those tiny buttons (wise of her to pass on before the advent of the touch screen), then getting angry-scared something had gone wrong and starting over, over and over, until she finally rage quit and just put it in a fucking ponytail again.
Oh wait, sorry, got my analogy a little tangled there.
To give Grandma credit, she had her hair absolutely 100% figured out - you've never seen a more luxurious head of winter-white weekly-set curls than she had. Never a lock out of place. I suspect she was just as frustrated by my apparent inability to do anything with my hair as I was whenever she tried to make a cell phone call. "If you'd only..."
I'm starting to get a few grey hairs myself - or rather, winter-white hairs. I like to arrange them on top for business meetings to give myself some street cred. Because it seems as if it will turn white I've been envisioning my hair one day magically becoming just like Grandma's, but the reality is that she maintained a complex hair regimen that she guarded as closely as her molasses cookies recipe and it is unlikely I'll ever be able to recreate either in my lifetime. Probably my hair will be just as mental as ever, except white.
I'd like to tell you that I'm at least keeping up on technology to make up for my hair-styling ineptitude, but that would be a lie. By this point, it's looking like I'm going to have to cultivate some other skill set for my grandkids to appreciate me for. I'll be sure to let you know when I figure out what that's going to be, in case anyone else in the support group is in a similar boat.
(This is a support group, right? You guys are supporting me in my lack of hair awareness? Cool, thx.)
I feel about my hair like old people feel about technology: it's mysterious and confusing, and although I am somewhat envious of others' abilities to wrangle the technology, frankly I'm not terribly inclined to learn how to use it myself. I'm all like, Why isn't it working today? It worked yesterday and I didn't change a thing! Why does it hate me?! Screw it, I'm going to deal with this the old-fashioned way that I understand (i.e., ponytail).
This is not to say that I haven't gotten some solid mileage out of my hair over the years - there's always been a certain market for the red hair/green eyes thing. Often of the basement-dwelling variety (thanks, perhaps, to the fantasy genre?), but y'know, in a pinch, I figure I can always catch some D&D D. I'd also like to thank kids' shows for deeply ingraining in people that the redhead with glasses is the smart one - I got glasses at the ripe old age of 6 so I feel I've benefitted from that unconscious bias for most of my life.
So I don't hate my hair, it's just that our relationship is somewhat... adversarial. I wake up every day knowing there's going to be some kind of battle with it, and I approach the mirror with the same look of grim determination on my face that my Grandma Mabel got every time she had to use her cell phone. I can remember her mashing the absolute hell out of those tiny buttons (wise of her to pass on before the advent of the touch screen), then getting angry-scared something had gone wrong and starting over, over and over, until she finally rage quit and just put it in a fucking ponytail again.
Oh wait, sorry, got my analogy a little tangled there.
To give Grandma credit, she had her hair absolutely 100% figured out - you've never seen a more luxurious head of winter-white weekly-set curls than she had. Never a lock out of place. I suspect she was just as frustrated by my apparent inability to do anything with my hair as I was whenever she tried to make a cell phone call. "If you'd only..."
I'm starting to get a few grey hairs myself - or rather, winter-white hairs. I like to arrange them on top for business meetings to give myself some street cred. Because it seems as if it will turn white I've been envisioning my hair one day magically becoming just like Grandma's, but the reality is that she maintained a complex hair regimen that she guarded as closely as her molasses cookies recipe and it is unlikely I'll ever be able to recreate either in my lifetime. Probably my hair will be just as mental as ever, except white.
I'd like to tell you that I'm at least keeping up on technology to make up for my hair-styling ineptitude, but that would be a lie. By this point, it's looking like I'm going to have to cultivate some other skill set for my grandkids to appreciate me for. I'll be sure to let you know when I figure out what that's going to be, in case anyone else in the support group is in a similar boat.
Tuesday, October 9, 2018
Proceed with Caution
Situations sometimes arise in a relationship where you realize things aren't going to go well unless you tread verrrry carefully. For instance, DH and I were admiring the lovely blue of a periwinkle's flowers one day and he asked me whether the colour had a name. He's right: it's such a good colour that it deserves its own name, and our experiences doing crosswords together indicate that I am the person in the relationship who is most likely to know the words for things like that. In that moment, however, I could not find a good way to say "periwinkle blue" without sounding like a sarcastic asshole. The proceed-with-caution alarm started going off in my head, and I'm reasonably certain I have a matching facial expression that goes with the alarm. It feels as if it might resemble a deer caught in headlights who also happens to be eating a lemon, but since I've never witnessed it personally I can't attest to how it translates externally.
On another occasion, I butt-dialed DH from the field. I had never experienced a butt-dial before that moment and since subsequent experiments with those field pants suggest a generally low ability to effect any dialing unless dampened, I believe it was literally my ass sweat that dialed him. I'm not much of a phone person so DH was pleased that I had (ostensibly) taken time out of my busy work day to call him. "It's so nice to hear from you! Why did you call?"
*Alarm sounds in head. Possible deer-lemon face. Long pause while considering my options.*
"... Um, because I miss you?"
This, by the way, was found to be The Correct Answer, and further proof IMHO that the exact truth is not always the exact best thing for a given situation. "Because it's 35 degrees and my ass sweat has increased the conductivity of my field pants such that they were able to work my smart phone" would surely not have gone over so well. Crisis averted.
Because I only get to live in my own brain, I'm only aware of when these situations come up from my own perspective. (Or some degree of aware, anyway: I've been told that I'm offensive frequently enough that I'm guessing my batting average isn't spectacular.) I've always wondered whether other people have similar alarm systems wired up, or if they just sail smoothly along with a minimum of anxiety involved in the telling of their lies (or truths, as befits the situation).
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Have I ever mentioned that I've decided to do any future Mrs. Small Fry a solid and really normalize the heck out of weird woman-things, so she won't have to worry about him finding them weird? Don't fret about, say, shaving your ankles in the sink so you can wear cropped pants that day, future potential daughters-in-law - I have got that shit covered. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem as if DH received any such training so we have developed a workaround wherein basically neither of us acknowledges anything, ever. Frankly, it's exhausting, and becoming less and less feasible the older I get, so here's a huge "you're welcome" to the future Mrs. Small Fry.
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I was making good use one evening of the wax left over from doing Medium Fry's brows when DH came into the room. As per our usual approach, I pretended to simply be casually standing around in the bathroom for no waxing-related reasons whatsoever, and he pretended not to notice my telltale hot pink reverse-'stache (et al.). He had an odd look on his face, sortof like he was afraid but had also recently eaten something sour?
"Um," he said, "I have a message for you from Small Fry, that is definitely not from me."
"Okaaay...?"
"He has asked me to ask you that when you are done waxing your knuckles, would you please go give him a goodnight hug?"
Ah. So that really is what the alarm face looks like in reality. Good to know.
On another occasion, I butt-dialed DH from the field. I had never experienced a butt-dial before that moment and since subsequent experiments with those field pants suggest a generally low ability to effect any dialing unless dampened, I believe it was literally my ass sweat that dialed him. I'm not much of a phone person so DH was pleased that I had (ostensibly) taken time out of my busy work day to call him. "It's so nice to hear from you! Why did you call?"
*Alarm sounds in head. Possible deer-lemon face. Long pause while considering my options.*
"... Um, because I miss you?"
This, by the way, was found to be The Correct Answer, and further proof IMHO that the exact truth is not always the exact best thing for a given situation. "Because it's 35 degrees and my ass sweat has increased the conductivity of my field pants such that they were able to work my smart phone" would surely not have gone over so well. Crisis averted.
Because I only get to live in my own brain, I'm only aware of when these situations come up from my own perspective. (Or some degree of aware, anyway: I've been told that I'm offensive frequently enough that I'm guessing my batting average isn't spectacular.) I've always wondered whether other people have similar alarm systems wired up, or if they just sail smoothly along with a minimum of anxiety involved in the telling of their lies (or truths, as befits the situation).
* * *
Have I ever mentioned that I've decided to do any future Mrs. Small Fry a solid and really normalize the heck out of weird woman-things, so she won't have to worry about him finding them weird? Don't fret about, say, shaving your ankles in the sink so you can wear cropped pants that day, future potential daughters-in-law - I have got that shit covered. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem as if DH received any such training so we have developed a workaround wherein basically neither of us acknowledges anything, ever. Frankly, it's exhausting, and becoming less and less feasible the older I get, so here's a huge "you're welcome" to the future Mrs. Small Fry.
* * *
I was making good use one evening of the wax left over from doing Medium Fry's brows when DH came into the room. As per our usual approach, I pretended to simply be casually standing around in the bathroom for no waxing-related reasons whatsoever, and he pretended not to notice my telltale hot pink reverse-'stache (et al.). He had an odd look on his face, sortof like he was afraid but had also recently eaten something sour?
"Um," he said, "I have a message for you from Small Fry, that is definitely not from me."
"Okaaay...?"
"He has asked me to ask you that when you are done waxing your knuckles, would you please go give him a goodnight hug?"
Ah. So that really is what the alarm face looks like in reality. Good to know.
Monday, September 17, 2018
Cake Pans
Not to boast, but people come to me for advice about things sometimes. It is of course possible that they come to me to find out the things they definitely shouldn't be doing - like when that one weirdo at the office with no eyebrows tells you they like your outfit - but I prefer to believe that I give the impression of knowing what I'm doing at least some of the time, so any requests for advice usually leave me feeling that happy little glow one feels when successfully faking one's way through life.
I got just such a call one day from my old buddy Cornelis; yes, even he of the annoyingly perfect family, teeth, career path, positive attitude, blah-fucking-blah, had come to seek my sage advice. Damn - I must be faking the hell out of life. Win!
He wanted to know... what dish to bake a cake in.
Okay, only slightly deflating, I could work with that: "Um, a cake pan?"
"We don't have cake pans. Can I use a casserole dish?"
"Wait, what? No cake pans?! What kind of... y'know what, never mind. Sure, you can use a casserole dish. You might have to change the baking time a little, though - what size have you got?"
"Umm..."
"It should say on the bottom."
"Oh. Uh... nine by thirteen inches."
"Hold up, what does this casserole dish look like?"
"You know, just a regular casserole dish - clear, says Pyrex on the bottom?"
Full disclosure, in my house, a 9x13" Pyrex is called a cake pan, because cake obviously trumps casserole. OBVIOUSLY. I send a brief prayer of apology to the cake gods if I'm ever forced to debase one of their sacred vessels with a lowly casserole. What the hell kind of heathen household must this guy live in if he thinks a cake pan is called a casserole dish? What do they call cookie sheets, "vegetable roasting platforms"? When was the last time he's even seen a dessert? My lawd, think of the children!
"Hey, wait a minute - why did you call me about this?"
"I dunno, I guess you just seem like someone who knows about cakes."
And there, implicit in his statement, was the answer to my question: he lives in a much thinner household than I do. This conversation took place several years ago and honestly, I've been trying to transmogrify it into a compliment ever since, but sometimes I'll look in a mirror and realize, Yeah. I definitely look like the sort of person who knows a thing or two about cakes. Like, maybe I'm BFFs with cake but it's gotten a little toxic over the years and we probably should consider seeing other people once in a while. (It's not you, it's me?)
Definitely not putting that one in my Feel-Good Folder. Maybe I'll tuck it away in a drawer for when I finally lose those last, stubborn eighty pounds; it's just the sort of thing that might fit more comfortably then.
I got just such a call one day from my old buddy Cornelis; yes, even he of the annoyingly perfect family, teeth, career path, positive attitude, blah-fucking-blah, had come to seek my sage advice. Damn - I must be faking the hell out of life. Win!
He wanted to know... what dish to bake a cake in.
Okay, only slightly deflating, I could work with that: "Um, a cake pan?"
"We don't have cake pans. Can I use a casserole dish?"
"Wait, what? No cake pans?! What kind of... y'know what, never mind. Sure, you can use a casserole dish. You might have to change the baking time a little, though - what size have you got?"
"Umm..."
"It should say on the bottom."
"Oh. Uh... nine by thirteen inches."
"Hold up, what does this casserole dish look like?"
"You know, just a regular casserole dish - clear, says Pyrex on the bottom?"
Full disclosure, in my house, a 9x13" Pyrex is called a cake pan, because cake obviously trumps casserole. OBVIOUSLY. I send a brief prayer of apology to the cake gods if I'm ever forced to debase one of their sacred vessels with a lowly casserole. What the hell kind of heathen household must this guy live in if he thinks a cake pan is called a casserole dish? What do they call cookie sheets, "vegetable roasting platforms"? When was the last time he's even seen a dessert? My lawd, think of the children!
"Hey, wait a minute - why did you call me about this?"
"I dunno, I guess you just seem like someone who knows about cakes."
And there, implicit in his statement, was the answer to my question: he lives in a much thinner household than I do. This conversation took place several years ago and honestly, I've been trying to transmogrify it into a compliment ever since, but sometimes I'll look in a mirror and realize, Yeah. I definitely look like the sort of person who knows a thing or two about cakes. Like, maybe I'm BFFs with cake but it's gotten a little toxic over the years and we probably should consider seeing other people once in a while. (It's not you, it's me?)
Definitely not putting that one in my Feel-Good Folder. Maybe I'll tuck it away in a drawer for when I finally lose those last, stubborn eighty pounds; it's just the sort of thing that might fit more comfortably then.
Wednesday, August 22, 2018
Word Addict
When someone says they're so hungry they could eat a horse, is it the mass of the horse that they're referring to, or the fact that we don't typically eat companion animals? Like, are we talking a large volume of food amount of hungry or a violating societal norms amount of hungry? For comparison, if I said I was so hungry I could eat a therapy dog, would that convey less, more, or the same amount of hungriness as if I said I could eat a horse? Or if I went to a horse-eating sort of country and said I could eat a horse would they be like, Yeah - so?
In light of this confusion I've been trying to say more accurate things like, "I'm so hungry I could take a stab at this sad apple that's been living in my field vest for the past week," or, "I could really purchase a footlong sub then only finish half of it because I consistently overestimate how much food I can consume in one sitting."
The whole accurate communication business came about because I keep seeing people posting things online about these four (or sometimes five?) "Agreements", which I'm mostly cool with but the first one is about always being impeccable with my words and I am definitely sloppy as fuck with my words. Or as I prefer to think of it, I expend oodles of energy being precise and thorough with my words at my job, so I really like to let loose with my words in my free time.
I've been encountering some issues during my efforts to rein my words in to something closer to "impeccable". First off, it's obvious that I'm not just a casual or social user of non-impeccable words; I'm a full-blown addict. It feels indescribably dull to convey things without verbally BeDazzling them: having "several ripe tomatoes" in my garden is simply not as punchy as having a metric fuck-ton of them. Saying I'm "somewhat over capacity" at work lacks the exhilarating dramatic flair of being adrift in a choppy sea of needy projects. And honestly, if I'm so hungry I could eat a normal quantity of a socially-acceptable food item, why would I even bother mentioning it?
Ugh, I can barely get it up to say anything at all without at least a little hit of non-impeccableness.
Secondly, I guess after all this time as a non-impeccable-word-addict maybe I've gotten bad at regular words? Without the usual suite of weather-related topics to discuss during routine interactions with strangers (trouble being that I obviously can believe the smoke/heat/humidity/whatever because it's fricking August and BC is on fire, duh, so it doesn't seem very impeccable to claim that I can't), I'm out of tricks. I panicked a little at my blood draw appointment on Saturday and asked the phlebotomist whether she prefers her orange juice with pulp or without.
Which brings me to my third problem: weather is the ultimate neutral topic in Canada. Without fallbacks like how you just can't buhleeeve this weather we're having, you get risk entering uncomfortably intimate territory like orange juice or the pharmacist's nice eyebrows, where everything somehow sounds like a pickup line despite your most impeccable of intentions.
So I'm going to make you all a deal: you stop posting this "Agreements" bullshit and making me accidentally hit on my pharmacist, and I will carry on in my usual highly entertaining (to me) manner, with the mutual understanding that I'm employing a (to me) standard degree of artistic license in the telling.
In light of this confusion I've been trying to say more accurate things like, "I'm so hungry I could take a stab at this sad apple that's been living in my field vest for the past week," or, "I could really purchase a footlong sub then only finish half of it because I consistently overestimate how much food I can consume in one sitting."
The whole accurate communication business came about because I keep seeing people posting things online about these four (or sometimes five?) "Agreements", which I'm mostly cool with but the first one is about always being impeccable with my words and I am definitely sloppy as fuck with my words. Or as I prefer to think of it, I expend oodles of energy being precise and thorough with my words at my job, so I really like to let loose with my words in my free time.
I've been encountering some issues during my efforts to rein my words in to something closer to "impeccable". First off, it's obvious that I'm not just a casual or social user of non-impeccable words; I'm a full-blown addict. It feels indescribably dull to convey things without verbally BeDazzling them: having "several ripe tomatoes" in my garden is simply not as punchy as having a metric fuck-ton of them. Saying I'm "somewhat over capacity" at work lacks the exhilarating dramatic flair of being adrift in a choppy sea of needy projects. And honestly, if I'm so hungry I could eat a normal quantity of a socially-acceptable food item, why would I even bother mentioning it?
Ugh, I can barely get it up to say anything at all without at least a little hit of non-impeccableness.
Secondly, I guess after all this time as a non-impeccable-word-addict maybe I've gotten bad at regular words? Without the usual suite of weather-related topics to discuss during routine interactions with strangers (trouble being that I obviously can believe the smoke/heat/humidity/whatever because it's fricking August and BC is on fire, duh, so it doesn't seem very impeccable to claim that I can't), I'm out of tricks. I panicked a little at my blood draw appointment on Saturday and asked the phlebotomist whether she prefers her orange juice with pulp or without.
Which brings me to my third problem: weather is the ultimate neutral topic in Canada. Without fallbacks like how you just can't buhleeeve this weather we're having, you get risk entering uncomfortably intimate territory like orange juice or the pharmacist's nice eyebrows, where everything somehow sounds like a pickup line despite your most impeccable of intentions.
So I'm going to make you all a deal: you stop posting this "Agreements" bullshit and making me accidentally hit on my pharmacist, and I will carry on in my usual highly entertaining (to me) manner, with the mutual understanding that I'm employing a (to me) standard degree of artistic license in the telling.
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